If you thought your chances offline were bad, it’s worse on these sites.
For one thing, the girls get hit on CONSTANTLY – anything you’re going to say to them has been said already, and probably several times that day.
They save the funniest ones that really stand out as outrageous and post them on their Facebook for other frequenters to see.
It’s when you, as an Asian man, are trying to use internet dating as a way to open up your options to include women of all races and not just Asian women that AMs run into the discriminatory and, yes, racist nature of internet dating.
Some of you may be familiar with a few dating sites specifically catered towards Asian men and the women who love them. The women that frequent these sites tend to disagree with me on this one, but they are speaking from their experiences.
There are a number of websites where Asian men and women of all races chat, mingle and even meet up from time to time. Essentially, all they have to do is post a few good pictures, look cute, get on the webcam and just wait for the private messages to start rolling in.
Girls that are considered “regulars” are not going to date the first man that asks her out – they know they don’t have to just take what they can get because the men sometimes worship the ground they walk on.
Guys that have been around for a while know which girls are taken, hard to get, ones that need a little coercing to get into bed with them and which ones are nothing but drama.
New girls that are simply gaga for Asian men are easy prey – but very rare; most will date an Asian guy but tend to date all races (typically their own).
The cutest girls of the bunch, which would probably be like 6s or 7s in real life, are considered 9s and 10s on these sites, so your standards will fall a little if you exclusively go for these girls.
Another facet of dating on these sites is that the guys outnumber the girls four to one.
A man in the top 5 percentile of looks will pull less interest than a Plain Jane middle-of-the-distribution female, and for guys who do NOT cut model-level cheekbones and 6'0+ height, the statistics are far grimmer. You might even say internet dating is racist against Asian men.
in order to get the same level of responses as a white man. There are also tons of studies on OKCupid which basically confirm that the playing field is unbalanced against Asian men when it comes to online dating.
Now, I will say that, as long as you aren’t paying for any kind of website for online dating, and just passively meeting people through the internet, using just a fraction of the time that you allocate to actually socializing and meeting people in real life, then there’s nothing wrong with working both in parallel.